Wedding planning can be a ton of fun but it can also be bonkers stressful. It is not every day that you plan a huge party for all of your friends and family. Add in the traditions, social politics, and money stuff and it’s no wonder most folks end up in a puddle of their…
Pre-Wedding Conversations: 30 Questions about Marriage and Finances
While there certainly are pre-marital counseling resources out there regarding marriage and finances we wanted to bring you some guidance of our own. We felt it was an important topic to touch on since a lot of the pre-marital counseling resources available online are written from a religious perspective. Even some of the most popular…
Til death do us part… Love without an after life.
Whatever the exact wording, most wedding ceremonies include some variation on “til death do us part.” Part of what you are signing up for is F O R E V E R with your partner. Setting aside for a moment that many marriages end in divorce rather than death ( a conversation for another day),…
Church Playgrounds and other stories…
Hey folks! It sure has been awhile since I posted, and for that I am sorry. I will admit I was burnt out from writing 5 posts in one week in addition to my wedding planning biz, my day job, and freelance work. Lesson learned. So today to get back into the swing of things…
Dealing with Wedding Related Stress
Wedding planning is a very special kind of stressful, with all these big important decisions, financial obligations, prying questions from family, etc… So it is totally natural to feel a bit overwhelmed by the task and by the societal pressure to be over the moon with happiness and enjoy planning your “perfect day.” Today I want…
Speaking to Your Tribe vs. Discrimination
I spend a lot of time reading about marketing for small business, I am a bit of a business education junkie. There is a lot of talk about “finding your tribe” in the world of creative entrepreneurship. This idea that if you speak authentically, build a personality-based brand, and target a narrow niche of customers, you will…
15 of the Best Non-Religious Wedding Readings
What kind of wedding planning blog would we be without ceremony reading suggestions? No one should have to suffer through 1 Corinthians ever again. Readings are a great way to personalize your ceremony or include important family members in the wedding. We have compiled a list of 15 of our favorite non-religious wedding readings quotes, poems,…
Telling your family you are not having a Church Wedding
Opening up to your parents about personal religious choices can be difficult. If your family is very religious and you are having doubts, or have fully left the church, this can be a point of contention and put significant strain on your relationship. Many people simply choose to not talk about religion with their family. That…
5 Steps to Find the Perfect Secular Wedding Officiant
You are getting married (yay!) and you are non-religious (rock on, free-thinker!). You probably want to have secular wedding officiant, but how do you find one? Where do you look? How can you be sure that they can legally marry you? There is a lot of misinformation, legal gray areas, and societal expectations that can complicate your search for…
Launch Week Celebration!
Since Secularly Wed went live in March, we have been busy writing, making connections, and building our team of Launch Vendors! It has been a lovely experience so far and there are big things to come later this year as we continue to grow. It is our mission to bring together secular and humanist couples, vendors,…
An Elegant Summer Wedding in Upstate NY (Before the Days of Pinterest!)
In our very first Real Wedding Feature, we interview Signe about how she and her husband, Tom, planned their classic, elegant Upstate NY Wedding at The Appel Inn. We wanted to share their wedding because they did a fantastic job planning a wedding that felt authentic and aligned with their values, before there was much talk of what that looks…